Here’s the 2020 Plan

Growing up I went though the typical phases of what I wanted to be when I was older. By the time I was 10 years old, I knew I wanted to be my own boss. Looking back I should have been more specific about what that meant. Like so many other children, I grew up, and joined the Restaurant Industry. What can I say? Cash is king.

After 22 years in the Industry, I decided that I would cut back my availability by 2021, to Monday through Friday only. I was already on a lucrative day schedule and it was working out great for my family. The idea was to start looking into my future career once my children graduated high school. I was focused on the idea of my children first, then myself.

This year I turned 40 on March 20th, by March 24th Hawaii entered the first state shutdown of 2020. Thanks to the global pandemic I was furloughed and eagerly awaiting my unemployment like so many others. Not much happened those first few weeks of quarantine. Then one sleepless night it occurred to me that I had been given an opportunity to start building the career I WANTED. It was time to commit to being my own boss, just as that little girl in Shawnee, Kansas realized all those years ago.

I will save the process I have been undergoing for future posts. This was meant to be an announcement post. I am announcing my career independence!

It has taken a village of amazing people to build the person I am today. I will be relying on that same village to guide and support me as I make this commitment and transition. It is time to start fulfilling my purpose.

I have updated my current websites and Facebook groups. I will be posting more blogs on Sandaled Shaman and Vocal. Look for live Facebook posts, starting next Saturday October 10th on the Edgar Cayce Oahu group page. There are a few more things in the works such as new programs, online services, and three certifications that I will be adding to my rebranded practice.

All of my social media links are below. I greatly appreciate the support of everyone who has contributed to this journey. Although 2020, has not been ideal, I am making the best of it and pursuing my personal calling to be of service to others.

Married, But Spiritually Single

When I was younger, I assumed that I would meet someone with similar spiritual interests. In my mind’s eye we would attend conferences together, read the same books and grow spiritually as a couple. Thirteen years ago I married my husband; our spiritual paths appear to compliment each other, but rarely do they coincide.

My husband is actually educated in a number of religious beliefs and practices. We share an attraction to Buddhism, although I have yet to see him meditate. Over the years we have shared in a couple of events, such as our children’s baptism and hearing His Holiness the Dalai Lama speak. Overall my spiritual endeavors have been in solitude.

I certainly appreciate my husband’s support of my spiritual path. I am fortunate that he understands my spiritual needs and quests. As long as our needs are being met, he is at ease.

Still there are times, particularly when I travel, that I wish he were there. Of course, I notice the other couples in attendance and I think it would be nice to share the experience with my husband. I know that we are together for a reason and I accept that our spiritual paths are very different. Without this acceptance I would not have experienced the other opportunities that have come my way.

At a recent training conference, I met another woman in a similar situation. We instantly formed a bond and spent the week together. If my husband or her husband had been in attendance, that opportunity would not have presented itself in the same manner. I am grateful to have had the experience of making a new friend.

With my husband’s support and understanding I have been able to meditate in the Great Pyramid, visit New Grange, travel to Iceland and each year I enjoy a yoga retreat in Mexico. Along the way I have gathered invaluable experiences and made unforgettable connections. I have been able to add to my holistic practice and I am going to embark on a year long transformational experience with the Tarsia Center starting next month.

These experiences have led me to believe that spiritual preferences and endeavors do not have to be experienced by both sides of a couple. At times those paths may cross, but as long as there is support within the relationship things will work out. I cherish the time I spend working on my spiritual growth apart from my husband. I also look forward to the times and adventures I share with him when we are together. Being spiritually single as helped me grow on my spiritual path and I am thankful for the experience.


Following the Signs

Much has changed in my life over the last few weeks. I have been working on my next step in life. While this was going on, I started to receive information about a turning point in my life. Being a spiritually motivated person, I asked for guidance, clarity and any signs that might help along the way.

I am a firm believer in signs as guidance. I have refined these skills throughout my life, but I am still learning. Frequently I have been asked, “How do you know when it’s a sign from God or just a coincidence?”

Simple answer, I do not always know. It is a process for me to analyze the information I receive. There is a fine balance between doubt and faith. I will go over some examples of signs and coincidences to help further explain.

When my son received a coupon for a Sklanders Trap Team toy in his Happy Meal, he was convinced it was a sign to drive to Target and buy a new toy. I had to explain to him, that it was a promotional coincidence, not a sign from the heavens. Bear in mind he just turned six, so his understanding of the situation was not out of the ordinary, unlike a woman I once knew. She received information that she should sell her worldly possessions, move to the American Southwest and search for aliens. I still remember her telling our group of friends, I was only fourteen at the time, but I still knew her plan was a bit odd.

She was a wife, mother and grandmother, who completely uprooted herself to follow the signs. Her husband did not agree with her motivation, so he stayed in their family home when she left. Last we heard she was traveling across the desert in an RV without A/C and with an array of animals. I think she was headed to Taos, NM to investigate the Taos Hum.

On the other side of the same coin, my mother recently received a series of signs regarding some recent home upgrades. She was looking to buy new lanai furniture, but was not certain of how to pay for it. Within a few days, a rebate card (not a credit card, similar to a gift card) for over $500 arrived in the mail from Lowes. My mother was then able to purchase the new furniture without having to pay out-of-pocket. That was a definite sign.

Personally, I have had my fair share of misinterpreting signs. As a young eighteen year old, a pre-approved credit card in the mail was a sign. Now I shred those offers on site. As I mentioned before, I analyze the information I receive. I receive signs through dreams, visions, informational downloads and throughout every day life.

I recently asked guidance about my career options; that night I received a dream in which I was suffering at a coffee shop. I awoke and took it to mean not to apply to the barista positions I had located the previous day. Although I could easily reinstate myself in the coffee world, I took the dream as a sign not to because it would cause unnecessary strife.

Yesterday, I was unusually feisty. I noted that I was upset and stressed out. I sat with my discomfort and asked for guidance. I began receiving information about going on a trip, for spiritual and business purposes. Not being certain of the idea’s intention, I asked my mother to be mindful of her dreams last night. (Quite often my spiritual signs affect the whole family.)

This morning while reading a book by one of my favorite authors, John Van Auken, I came across a line from the Book of Job and received an informational download. (This is how I describe receiving information from a higher power.) I went home and shared the information with my parents. Then began the process of seeing the reality of the information I received. I will not exaggerate, the reality of this trip is closer to the World of Disney, but I am a believer.

While discussing the details of this potential endeavor, my mother told me her dream from last night. It had to do with her finding a restroom, so the dream to her was based in the reality that her sleeping body had to use the bathroom. I noted that a dream involving the restroom would make me think of the aforementioned author, John Van Auken, who has also trained me in dream study. Van Auken cautioned against the body’s natural urge to use the bathroom upon waking. He advises to review dreams prior to using the loo.

At that moment, I was actually discussing the personal symbology of dreams with my mother, not even thinking of her dream as a potential sign for me. Is my mother’s dream, which triggered memories about John Van Auken, whom I was reading earlier in the day and I will potentially visit with on this trip, a sign for me? If I had not received the following sign, I would not be reading into this dream so much.

I felt a need to take a break from the situation, so I took a walk with my son. As I turned the corner I noticed a parked car with a license plate from Virginia. Virginia happens to be where this trip will take me if things come together. Sign or coincidence? If I were east of the Mississippi or on a military base, complete coincidence, but I live in Hawaii. It is not common to see an out-of-state plate on island. I smiled and took the license plate to be a sign. Not necessarily a sign that I am going, but a sign to that I am on the right path and I should pursue the options.

My basic guidelines for determining if a sign is a message or a coincidence, primarily rely on your reasoning skills. When you receive a message or sign, ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Who is this for?
  2. Who is this from?
  3. Who will this benefit?
  4. Will this cause any harm to myself or others?

Sit with these questions and their answers. Ask for additional guidance, be specific about what you are seeking. Do not be afraid to ask for clarification in a way you will understand. The Universe is an infinite place, help yourself by defining your needs. If you cannot easily remember your dreams, do not ask for guidance through them. Above all else, trust yourself.