In January of this year I decided to return to college for the eighth time? I am still working towards a useless associates degree. I may even graduate next fall semester. My speech class did not transfer and I needed one to fulfill a requirement. Being an experienced facilitator and speaker a speech class sounded dreadful. When the counselor said, “How about Interpersonal Communications?” I thought “Perfect! My previous managers told me to stop making my coworkers cry. I could use some interpersonal direction.” Well, here I am with only a couple weeks left in class and a slew of forum posts on the book chapters I never read. My instructor loved my writings and suggested I compile a book, or be a stand up comedian. As I already have this platform I opted to share those writings here. These are my personal commentaries on questions related to class material. These will be different than my previous blog posts and have minimal editing. I feel it is time to move my writings into a more authentic light. I hope you enjoy my thoughts just as my professor has this semester. (Each chapter focus and question are at the beginning of each post to provide the reader with a bit of background.)
Create safe places for yourself and you don’t have to be liked by everybody and the day you can get that down you know some people like you some people don’t that’s wonderful and the ones who don’t like you that’s great let them find their way.Peter Woodbury from Edgar Cayce on Empathy, Sensitivity, and Boundaries: From Karma to Compassion
Listening (Ch. 8)
paraphrasing / remembering / responding
Identify the situations in which you listen mindfully and those when you listen mindlessly and then evaluate the style you use in each situation.
Give examples of ways in which our growing use of technology affects listening effectiveness.
My daughter is 13, my son is 11 neither of them listen to sh*t. That is not exactly true, my son listens to his friends on Minecraft and Fortnite. My daughter is always chatting with her friends on Discord. Both of them can remember information from mindless YouTubers, but they cannot remember anything important. Our family therapist is having an inner conflict with the use of screen time in her home and society. She recently finished a book discussing the long last effects of prolonged electronic use. I have noticed how my kids cannot retain information. Almost as if that part of the brain has not fully developed.I did have my daughter tested for a number of concerns. Fortunately she does not have a chemical imbalance when it comes to memory. She does need more assistance developing her higher functioning skills. In fact today she has lost her phone privileges during homeschooling time. She missed half of a class because she was chatting on Discord. The class was part one in a seven part series, not to mention being tardy. A couple of months ago my son was struggling with distance learning. We noted he was playing games on his phone during class time. As soon as we took the phone away his classwork improved. Fewer distractions are best for my children. As a parent I am seeing the negative effects of prolonged screen time. I was one of the stricter parents when it came to electronics. My kids never had a screen shoved in their faces when they were in their strollers. I was struggling with the balance of no electronics at home and electronics being used in school, then COVID hit. My children have been doing distance learning for almost a full year. Five days a week on their school issued iPads for 4-5 hours each day. What else could we do?As an adult I have to make a point to not use my phone during Zoom sessions. Difference is I can multitask and am capable of listening to more than one thing at once. I also understand and accept the consequences of my distractions.